Parenting Four Year Olds-Great Education Debate

4/07/2013 11:23:00 AM Posted by mommy2twincesses

Just to think that DH and I are now parenting four year olds blows my mind. It seems like such a short time ago that I was happily growing our identical baby girls inside me and here I sit now facing the fact that they’re FOUR……… did this happen?!

I’ve enjoyed them more than I could ever express with simple words and up to this point each birthday has left me feeling energized and like a conqueror, however, the 4th birthday was a bit of a different story. At 4 years old, its official, they’re not “babies” anymore. They’re, *gasp*, PRESCHOOLERS! Holy smokes! And again I shout, HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?! 

I’ve been so blessed to have been able to stay at home with our little darlings this whole time and now suddenly that they’re FOUR I’m having to face the music that school, of some sort, is right around the corner. 

Yes, we’ve discussed school plans here and there and thought we knew what we’d do, but now that the time is actually here, I’m sick to my stomach, and we’re totally stumped! We live in an area of very limited educational opportunities. We’re pretty much faced with entrusting the public school system-of which ours fair “so-so” at best-or homeschooling, and just thinking about that scares the jeepers out of me! The closest private option is an hour’s drive away and tuition is sky high, so that’s not an ideal solution either. Can you say “major case of heartburn” brewing?!

At four years old the girls could start pre-kindergarten at the public school just blocks from our house. Registration is only about a month away and I have no clue what to do!
One side of my brain is saying, “hold to your babies as long as you can, they’ll have to start next year-in some form or another” but the other side says, “send them to school-they’ll enjoy it, you’ll have time to reclaim your sanity after 4 years at home with two little ones”, so what is a body to do?!

I’m in serious need of counseling here! Opinions?! I need to hear both sides, the “keep them at homes” and the “send them to schools”……….please, help a sister out!


  1. Parenting Patch said...

    My daughter is only 15 months, but we are already discussing the school question. We may send her to preschool when she is 3. We want to send her to a small private school when she turns 5. We may homeschool her. We may send her to preschool a couple days a week. Basically, we have no idea. We figure that we will see what she would like to do.

    Have you asked your girls their opinion?

  2. mommy2twincesses said...

    They are really excited about learning and are pretty advanced for their age I think. They want to learn and they say they want to go to school (sometimes) but since they've never been I can't imagine they would really "know" KWIM? It's such a tough decision and I almost wish someone else could just decide for me and we'd move on from there :oP

  3. Ashlea said...

    I only have a 2 month old right now so school is a long ways off but, I am planning on homeschoolin. If the thought of that scares you, you could always teach them the things they learn in preschool and then send them to school for kindergarten. That way you get a few extra years with them.

  4. Unknown said...

    I homeschooled my twins boys. I'll be honest, it's not the easiest thing on the planet. That said, there are tons of resources and supports if you make that choice.

    Ultimately, you have to do what is best for your family. There is nothing wrong with trying an option and evaluating from there. If you want to keep them at home, then do it. For kindergarten you shouldn't be doing more than a half-hour of any kind of formal work. Focus should be on learning through play and activities and experiences.

    If you want to send them and try out school, then do that. You might be surprised at how things go. After keeping my boys home all their lives, my older set went to public high school this year. We live in a district that is not highly rated, in part due to the prison population here. However, there has been plenty of opportunity to excel. The teachers care, and the school offers a lot of opportunities that have so far impressed me greatly.

    Keeping them home all those years was the right decision at the time. Sending them now has clearly been the best choice, as they're growing and learning. I still have the younger boys at home but will send them on a trial basis to 8th grade. I'm planning that they'll like it and choose high school as well, but the door is open for them to stay home if that's best.

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